Recently I’ve been asked the question, What if my loved one doesn’t want to move? Unfortunately, there isn’t a simple answer. The first response I give is typically this; You want this to be a process, not an event. The more you can have your loved one’s input into the move the more successful the transition will be. If the cognition of the loved one is good, this is especially true. When there is memory loss, the ball game changes as they can’t make a reasonable decision about a move and their safety is a concern.
When health declines and living at home isn’t safe for your loved one, then the discussion and the tactics need to be more serious. Some suggestions:
- Involve the doctor in the discussion.
- Ask an authoritarian or someone your loved one respects for their help in the discussion; a pastor, priest, rabbi; a police officer or medical expert they trust, a neighbor they hold in high esteem.
- When you read or hear of someone they know having a crisis in their home environment, discuss with your loved one how you love them and don’t want something like that to happen to them.
- If driving is a concern, have an assessment and pay for it so that you have some more data to support a move. (Transportation becomes an issue as we age and senior living can fill much of the need.)
- Has a neighbor, friend moved to senior living that you can go visit. Seniors that have made the move will say, “they wish they would have done it much sooner”.